Shuru me jab koi insaan important lagne lagta hai, to hum naturally uske liye time nikalte hain. Uski baatein yaad rehti hain, uska mood affect karta hai aur dheere-dheere wo daily life ka part ban jata hai.
Lekin ek point par kuch log feel karne lagte hain ki unki side se effort zyada hai aur saamne wale ki side se kam. Tab ek difficult feeling aati hai — Kya main priority nahi hoon?
Ye feeling painful isliye hoti hai kyuki insaan aksar compare karna start kar deta hai. “Main uske liye itna available hoon… kya wo mere liye bhi hai?” Aur honestly, ye question weak hona nahi dikhata. Ye emotional importance feel karne ki need ho sakti hai.
Lekin yahan ek cheez samajhna zaroori hai: har insaan pyaar ya care same tarike se show nahi karta. Busy schedules, stress ya personality differences effort ko different bana sakte hain. Isliye ek situation se conclusion nikalna unfair ho sakta hai.
Lekin agar repeatedly lagne lage ki aapki feelings secondary hain, aap hi adjust kar rahe ho, aap hi wait kar rahe ho — to us hurt ko ignore karna bhi zaroori nahi.
Kai log isi phase me aur zyada effort karne lagte hain, shayad is hope me ki ek din saamne wala value samajh lega. Kabhi-kabhi hota hai. Kabhi nahi.
Ek uncomfortable truth ye bhi hai ki constantly priority maangna emotionally thaka sakta hai. Healthy relationships me insaan perfect nahi hote, lekin repeatedly unimportant feel karna bhi normal nahi lagna chahiye.
Final Thought
Agar koi aapko priority na de, to pehle situation samajhna zaroori ho sakta hai. Lekin uske saath ek aur baat yaad rakhna — aapki value sirf is baat se decide nahi hoti ki koi aur aapko kitna time deta hai. Kabhi-kabhi self-respect aur patience ke beech balance banana bhi important hota hai.
